The rules of happy marriage are generally the same for both men and women and all of them are based on the idea that you should understand what you anticipate of your marriage and of your partner.

It often happens…
People date, fall in love and get acquainted to each other trying to turn partner into the ideal person they have always dreamt of. We do it because when we have chosen the person from the crowd, we paid attention to appearance, figure and posture, humor, social position and other factors. However, in family life absolutely different qualities come into sight.

What are they? Sometimes this is untidiness, sometimes – inattentiveness, generally speaking, these are qualities that have been left unnoticed earlier. The idea is that we do not perfectly understand what happiness is and what kind of person can give us this happiness.

Some people think that it is inappropriate to count all details in such delicate subject as love. However, when you see the concrete image of the person, his slightest merits and drawbacks, and can say “This is exactly the person with whom I want to share all joys and troubles” before such an important step as marriage, your marriage is destined for greater success.

The choice of life partner is more serious than, for instance, apartment purchase. Why then, when we buy apartment, we consider all requirements such as price, district, number of rooms, etc, but when we get married we ignore drawbacks and become more sensible to them just minutes after receiving the marriage certificate?

Now you can imagine that you are choosing a future wife. Take peace of paper and put apart her profile to the slightest detail. Write down such important things as habits and world outlook, traits of character and social position, her dreams and they way she spends her money – create the personality and start from it.

Work for subconsciousness

It is a common knowledge that our subconsciousness is the basis for dreams and aims realisation. Give your subconsciousness more work, let it plan your future life; draw in your mind concrete images and situations. Remember the rule: we receive things, for which we ask.

Specialties of future princess
 
Take a pen and piece of paper once again and speculate on the specialties, you may want to see in your woman. For instance, could you fall in love with a woman, who is taller than you? Is it important that she has European appearance. Define average age, constitution, height and size.

What must be her income, social and financial position? Enumerate possible occupations. And the most important thing – speculate thoroughly on her personality. When the portrait is finished, look at it from the critical point of view? Is it really possible to find a woman you are dreaming of? Draw the portrait of your desired woman closer to reality. Remember, there are no people without drawbacks, and you are one of them. Be tolerant to others.

Expectations

Speculate on things you are expecting from the partner. When you make a list, you may discuss it with your sweetheart even before marriage and meet each other halfway. Do you want your woman be a good company or do you need her to view marriage as business and be your most reliable business partner?

Do you want her support you in your career advance? Who will be responsible for financial stability, and who will take care of tidiness and coziness in your home? Or would you both share these responsibilities?

How would you form your family budget, putting both salaries in one place and sharing equal access or taking some pocket money immediately from monthly income? Sometimes, we think these are trifles that can be easily solved as the train of marriage passes by. We are absolutely mistaken. Just these very trifles are the basis for the majority of conflicts that further result in more serious breaking-off.

In addition to daily routine, it is also vital to pay attention to intimacy and sexual interests. Sexual harmony is the basis of happy marriage.

And one more thing…Share interests of each other. If your bride enjoys opera, visit opera with her. If you like football, invite your sweetheart to football match. It is important to have genuine interest in hobbies and occupations of each other, because this reflects your mutual respect.

When you answer all these questions and many others that come to your mind, it won’t be difficult to define what kind of woman is for you and if your partner is up to these expectations, you may sign marriage registration documents without any delay.