There are tons of advices concerning online dating on the web, but most often people neglect them considering that they are experts in dating overall. Committing a mistake or two, some give up the idea of online dating; others rush to browse the internet in the search of any helpful information. Why not learn the basics of online dating in advance in order to feel comfortable about it later on?

Online dating is a thing you should learn, as it is different from traditional dating. While you practice it, you may lose several worthy women you have actually wanted to come along with just because you have not found a proper way of communication and produced wrong impression.

The important thing that makes online dating different is a limited possibility to predict and judge reactions. You may learn about the woman on words only and who knows whether her reactions to your letters coincide with her words.

Hence, the rule of proper communication #1 – be predictive about the response. The overall tone of the conversation should be light and fun, not overloaded with any of your problems and troubles. You should first build FRIENDSHIP, not love, affection or anything else that is too personal.

Rule #2 – Do not jump to intimate and personal details until the relation is stabilized. It concerns both men and women who “enjoy” sharing their thoughts about their ex-spouses, ex-wives, ex-husbands and other ex-s. It is unpleasant and, in fact, the best way to frighten your pen pal away.

Rule #3 – online dating is so exciting that makes people at their fifties feel like teenagers fixing their first date. You may feel like that, but do not sound like that. There is nothing wrong with showing your interest and happiness but don’t overdo with it starting to act awkwardly or silly.

Proper communication and impression you produce on a woman are interconnected and interrelated notions. Men are different.

There are men who feel intuitively what a woman wants, others need prompting.

There are romantic men and those who are restrained in showing feelings and emotions.

There are men who are born with a talent of flirting, seducing and courting a woman, others learn those rules in the process of all their life, by means of trials and mistakes.

We may enumerate the categories of men for ever and ever, but no matter what category you are, any woman highly appreciate tokens of interest. Perhaps, if you analyze all your past relationships, you will identify where your behavior has failed and, probably, find out that you have not showed enough interest.

Although many men know that signs of interest are like water for a woman and if she is not “watered” enough she will either wither or find another well, they often forget to water her.

How can you leave lasting impression and show your interest via e-mail? The following list of suggestions can be extensively continued, if you use more fantasy about them.

• When you receive a first letter from a woman, reread her profile. Distinguish a thing that is unique to her and mention it in your reply. Not only mention this feature or accomplishment, but also compliment on it. It brings you your first small victory.

• Showing interest also means asking questions. However, do not concentrate on typical questions such as “What is your hobby” or “How is your family”. Questions may be as diverse as your creativity allows such as “What is your most pleasant memory about your childhood”, “What did you dream of when you was a little girl” or “Why have you become a doctor (an economist, a teacher, etc)”.
Asking direct questions, you promote your relationships on to the next stage and allow your pen pal feel freely about asking things she is interested in.

• Lasting impression depends on your ability to make a conversation fluent and relaxed. Allow some flirting enter your e-mail messages; ask for opinions or advice of a woman you communicate with. This will allow both of you feel as if participating in life of each other, as well as a woman will sense her concernment and significance for your decisions (Indeed, it is most important for HER feel important).

Hope, your online dating will be a great success!

Irina Abolentseva