Most often, the impression received during the first meeting is crucial for developing further relations. Thus, it is better to produce good impression at the first meeting rather than to bring excuses every time, when you meet a woman afterwards.

To start the conversation with the pleasant phrase is a good beginning. Moreover, you can show your interest through a subtle complement, which will be admitted and appreciated if it is appropriate and sincere.

Any person has some specialties and merits, while the successfully selected complement can establish the initial contact and create positive atmosphere for further conversation.

Today we less think about the origins and history of complements, but it is worth mentioning that in the past the whole culture surrounded them.

People have been always able to show their approval, interest and sympathies, but the tradition of the complement is connected with knight culture and the art of troubadours, which flourished in the Middle Ages. Later the art of complementing was highly appreciated in the society and was an indispensable element of the conversation.

In the course of time, the notion of the complement has been subject to many changes. Figurativeness has been exchanged for self-descriptiveness and functionality. Modern pattern of a complement suggests accuracy, plainness and relevancy.

Sometimes the compliment is confused with flattery, but while the complement suggests some hyperbole, there is no place for lie and insincerity. The major qualities of good complement are sincerity and naturalness.

Men often think that the more they use complements the easier to conquer a woman. Nothing of the kind. If you are too abundant in complements about woman’s appearance, you will enter the list of failures, who have already done it one time or another.

On the other hand, some men consider that they should never say complements as not to look ingratiating. This approach is also mistaken. It is better to maintain neutral position toward both approaches.

The complement is a good instrument only when you can use it skilfully, while some men need some training to learn the basics. Here they are.

1. Say complements openly, with the sense of independence, confidence and some playfulness.
2. You may add the element of sexuality to the components featured above. But you may only do it, when you have already perfected your skills in saying complements and may objectively appreciate the appropriateness of this action, do it subtly and foresee possible reactions and consequences.
3. When saying a complement, look after you posture, gesture and face expression. You must not look like a theatre actor.
4. The more observant and attentive you are, the more successful and influential your complement. In ideal, you should learn noticing in women and people such features that are not obvious and transparent for the majority of others.
5. It is important to note that complements may be different in respect to the stage of your relationship with a woman. For instance, if it is an initial stage of the relationship, erotism is never appropriate.
6. Many women like when men approve their personal characteristics instead of completion and appearance, because beautiful women hear complements about their appearance everyday and they view some pleasant words about their personal characteristics as a kind of novelty.

In addition, it is also important to receive complements skillfully and adequately answer them. Many men think that complements are meant for women only. What a mistake! Women say complements to men and do it very often. Some people, both men and women are not keen at receiving complements; they receive them without any gratitude and try to disprove them.

If the person is in the situation, when he wants to say the complement from the heart and bring joy and happiness to the partner, he will feel confused to hear the refutations. He will think: “Why on earth I have done this? I will never do it again!”

It is more pleasant both for the receiver and for giver of the complement if the receiver accepts the complement with gratitude and appreciation and enjoys the process. How one can do it?

There is no need to reject complements, make excuses as though you are reminded of your mistake or answer in one word. The gratitude expressed in one word “thanks” is extremely formal reaction for sincere approval or appreciation.

Look into the eyes of your partner, smile and thank kindly. Indeed, there are so many ways to express your gratitude, even with the complement in return!